April 21, 2018

Infant Sleep Issues

There are several popular methods used to help babies learn to put themselves to sleep.  The goal for any parent should be to learn about the various methods and then choose for oneself, what fits for them.  However, what usually happens is that we default to the way we were raised, looking to our parents for advice on what to do with our babies.  Or, we hear from friends about how their baby is sleeping through the night and wonder what we’re doing wrong.  The key is to know what method they are trying and make an educated decision about whether or not that method is right for you.  Whichever method you choose, it’s important to research it’s origins and it’s immediate AND long term effects on children and parents.

The topic of attachment and bonding vs. Babywise or “Ferberizing”, is HUGELY controversial.  I don’t think that I’ve ever seen mothers become so heated about any other topic.  It can be very divisive and hurtful to relationships.  I have friends who disagree with my views, as I with theirs, but we can choose to respect each other as people.  I realize that there are people who choose alternative parenting styles.  And that what may fit for me and my family is not necessary a good fit for another.  I firmly believe that in matters of such importance, one should be willing to look at the information available and make an educated decision.  So, I’ve tried to list varied sides of issues, where applicable.

For a thorough review of infant sleep research see:

Parenting Science

Mother-Baby Behavioral Sleep Laboratory

Zero to Three


Sleep Methods

Dr. Sears is a world renowned pediatrition.  He has a tremendous website that will walk you through how to find a sleeping routine that works for you and your child.  I highly recommend his site if you and your child are having sleep difficulties.

Gary Ezzo created Babywise and Growing Families International.  Although Babywise has become a popular method used for training your baby to sleep through the night, there is extreme controversy surrounding Ezzo and the methods he proposes.  If you are considering using Babywise or Growing Kids God’s Way, PLEASE READ this website, before making your decision.

Click Here to read about the controversy surrounding Ezzo.

Dr. Richard Ferber – Dr. Ferber has been known as the sleeping expert.  Although he once promoted letting your baby “cry it out”, his new book suggests other alternative methods.  And he has also changed his view on co-sleeping.  He was once firmly opposed to it and now has written that it can be a good option for families.  If you plan to read his book, please find a revised one.


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